Be Positive
A guest post By fellow blogger Susyn Reeve, M.Ed.. If you too would like to contribute contact us here
The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible.
- Unknown
Our thinking informs our experience. A positive outlook can transforms a traffic jam into an opportunity to practice patience. But a new thought is not enough. You must embody the new thought. You actually have to have a somatic experience of your positive thought to realize the potent benefit of positive thinking.
Have you ever noticed that when you commit to positive thinking you sometimes still hear the voice of doubt, fear and uncertainty running like an endless recording in your mind? You boldly create an affirmation, “I focus my attention on positive thoughts.” You commit to writing this affirmation in your journal ten times each morning for the next 30 days to keep focused on your positive intention. You may paste sticky notes in strategic locations – your bathroom mirror, your refrigerator door – you may write your affirmation on your screen saver, etc… But, whenever you write it and see it you may also hear other – negative – affirmations in your mind: “Who are you kidding you’re so judgemental? This is too hard, what’s positive about having more bills than I can pay? I just don’t know how to do this.”
Overlaying a positive thought on a belief that is at odds with the affirmation is not enough to upgrade the software of your mind. It’s like putting a bandage on a wound without first cleaning the wound and applying the appropriate medicine. You won’t see the wound directly, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exit. To truly create a new brain pathway, based on your positive thinking, you must free your heart and mind from your negative programming not merely cover it up with a new thought that you really don’t believe.
You may be wondering, Okay – how do I do this? Often installing a positive thought begins with an awareness of your negative thinking. Here’s how it works:
- Identify something you are not happy about in your life right now (an unhappy relationship, being overweight, being unemployed, a strained relationship with a family member or friend, etc…)
- Choose 1 item and create a positive intention statement that defines what you desire. (My relationship is a source of joy in my life. I love and honor my body, etc…)
- Take a piece of paper and fold it in half. One the left hand-side write your positive affirmation. On the right-hand side write the thoughts – whatever thoughts – pop into your mind in reaction to your affirmation. Here’s an example:
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | But I’m overweight |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | I weigh too much |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | I’m too lazy. |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | It’s too hard. |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | I don’t stick with healthy exercise and eating |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | I really wish I could do this once and for all. |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | I wonder if I could really do this. |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | I want to. |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body. | Okay, I’ll try. |
| I love, appreciate and care for my body, | Yes, I Do! |
- Look for themes in the statements on the right side of the page. In the example above the themes include: a lack of confidence, concerns about this being too hard, doubt in success.
- Take those themes and incorporate them into the positive affirmation so the positive thought becomes:
- I am easily successful in loving, appreciating and caring for my body.
- I am supported as I effortlessly love, appreciate and care for my body in my thoughts, words and actions.
- My thoughts, words and behavior reflect the love, appreciation and care I give to my body.
- To further reinforce your positive affirmation and to tap into the true potency of positive thinking, using the full resources of your imagination, create a visualization of your positive affirmation accomplished. For example:
- I am wearing my beautiful new black dress at my birthday party. I hear my family and friends singing Happy Birthday to me. I feel confident, beautiful and healthy and know how satisfying a small piece of my strawberry shortcake birthday cake will taste.
- Visualize the scene of your positive affirmation fully accomplished – as though it is occurring right now – and you are feeling the feelings of associated with your heart’s desire.
Remember while positive thoughts are useful for an attitude adjustment, they are a true source of empowerment when you experience them alive in your body in the present moment.
Susyn Reeve
Susyn has 35 years experience as an Organization Development Consultant, Executive Coach and Leadership Development Facilitator. She is the co-creator of Self-Esteem-Experts.com and WITHForgiveness.com; and the author of the award winning book Choose Peace and Happiness. She is currently completing a manuscript for her new book, The Inspired Mind.
- As an Organization Development Consultant her clients have included: American Express, Exxon, New York University, Mount Sinai Medical Center (NY), Continental Airlines, The Metropolitan Museum of Art and The Young Presidents Organization (YPO).
- As a Self Esteem Expert she provides information, exercises, Daily Inspiration messages and coaching to boost self esteem and build confidence.
- As a Calling in The “One” Coach she works with clients to free their hearts and minds from blocks to unprecedented love in their lives.
- As an ordained InterFaith Minister, she offers Spiritual Guidance to people facing life challenges and has created ceremonies to mark life’s passages.
Susyn has been a delegate to the UN Commission on the Status of Women (2007 – 2009). She is a Board Member of Folk Arts Rajasthan and in the Fall of 2010 she will serve as an Advisory Board Member of the National Association for Self Esteem.

